being able to tell the difference between small talk and phatics is actually extremely useful for me as an autist lol
every culture had their own set of approved small talk topics.
one cultures small talk is another cultures Big talk is another cultures phatic, it's all fake and we shouldn't feel bad for being tripped up by rules we weren't taught
im gonna start using "whatve you been learning/passionate about lately" to my list of small talk subjects because fuck it if this is all fake then I can make it what I want it to be and I want to hear people's special interests
@NumberOneBug oooh good idea!
@NumberOneBug my partner has done this since forever and it is truly the best. usually you get to jumpstart a connection and if somebody struggles to answer you know instantly to either avoid them (bc boring // dead inside) or to take them under your wing and help them realize how awesome they are
Yiff.Life is oriented towards those in the furry and LGBTQA+ communities.