My simple principles of making your time online a bit happier.

Read the whole post or thread.
Ask questions kindly.
Remember that not every post is for you.
You don't need to reply.
Don't worry what others think.
Write your own posts.
Speak with good motivation.
Let go of seeking praise.
Let go of avoiding blame.
Don't let others decide your worth.

#feditips #happiness

Read the whole post.

Reacting to a single post without reading the thread is the source of so many misunderstandings. We've all experienced it. It takes a little more time, but it's good to slow down anyway. Try reading, and re-reading the post or thread, then think about replying carefully.

Ask questions kindly.

The way we ask questions in replies here can shape the direction of a whole interaction and change a conversation into an argument that doesn't help anyone, leaving us all feeling worse. Try real kindness, not just civility but recognizing their humanity.

Remember that not every post is for you.

A lot of the time we're posting with a specific audience in mind. Other people are too. Consider that when you read a post that it might not have been written for you. That might be why you feel the way you do about it. Do you really need to reply?

You don't need to reply.

Sometimes when we're replying it's because either we think something is wrong and we need to tell them, or we think we have information that they need to hear from us. Most of the time those kind of replies are unnecessary, unhelpful, and we end up in arguments, disagreements, and misunderstandings because of them. Practice just reading, listening, sharing, and not replying. It's hard but when you let go of that need to reply it can free you.


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